After commenting on a status by Adrienne Hughes on Facebook where she addressed singles longing to be married I decided to write on this topic. As certain points were brought forward using the Biblical story of Ruth and Boaz I reflected on how selfishness has affected today’s marriages. Let me be quick to say that my views are just my views, not a general diagnosis of all marriages.
The Two Shall Become One
One Name – I grew up as a child not really knowing maiden names, once a woman was married she assumed her husband’s surname. There was no complaining about the “hassle” of a name change…and that was before electronic forms at your fingertips.
One Pocket… ok, maybe four! LOL! A joint checking and joint saving act where the couple budgets together for their lives together… and then two separate accounts for personal spending…BUT none of the accounts should be hidden/secret.
Dearly Beloved We Are Gathered Here To WITNESS
Unbroken Circle I have been noticing this growing trend to obsess over getting a ring………………and then after a while stop wearing it?!?!!!!!? I don’t get it honestly! Have we forgotten that an engagement ring and wedding band are not necessities but, since we use them, they should hold great significance? This symbol of your LIFELONG commitment isn’t a fashion statement or an accessory for arguments…it is a bonafide symbol of a not-to-be broken love and trust. It is your witness!
Ladies and gentlemen, tradition has become taboo (how did that happen?), but certain institutions should not become extinct. When the Bible states that a man should Leave his parents (personal comforts, safety, security, what he’s used to) and Cleave (become one with, stick to, remain faithful) it meant it wholeheartedly. You cannot stick to someone while being selfish…it won’t work. The Bible cautions us to treat marriages in the way that Christ has treated his bride, the church. How did he do it? By being unselfish in sacrificing His life and dignity to die a criminal’s death. He loved His bride that much that though He is King and Ruler He’s a selfless lover.
So I beg of the few of you who read my thoughts let us not modernize some institutions, such as marriage, that we lose the meaning, responsibilities, joy, and blessings of God on them.